David
2003-12-15 13:04:20 UTC
Dear David,
I have this fear of attachment that hinders me from openly express
my love and affection to others. This is a serious hindrance to
dating and developing normal relationships toward others. I have
great difficulty joining with others. When I am with my friends and
family, my heart is cold and I don't feel any warm attachment or
feeling toward them. I don't have any joy when I am with people and
prefer to be left alone. The pursuit of awakening and reading the
ACIM and other spiritual books are my only enjoyments. Other than
that I have no other interests. I am deeply troubled by it. I wish
to have a stable relationship with a woman, but have very little
inclination to ask woman out for a date. I know this is not what the
Holy Spirit has intended for me, but I don't know what is my source
of error. Please comment on my state and please help me to have a
warm heart with a lot of love and affection.
Sincerely
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Beloved One,
Thanks for writing and opening up about what is troubling you. The
fear of attachment of which you speak is really a fear of Intimacy.
This fear is not about sexual intimacy, but it is the fear of
revealing your Innermost Self, believing that rejection or
attachment may result. Love and affection are held back because of
the belief in expectations attached to them. Love must be freely
given to be Love, and it is the same with affection. If there are
strings attached to love and affection, there are also unfulfilled
expectations. You have the opportunity to open up and feel how good
extending love feels. As you practice extending love and cultivate
expressing affection as the Holy Spirit Guides, it will seem more
and more natural. You will be Guided to opportunities for this, and
as you allow the Holy Spirit to shine through you it will feel more
and more natural. The old inhibitions are washed away in our shared
Purpose. The limits that were once placed on the mind begin to
loosen and dissolve. The motive shifts from getting to giving
without expectations. And a feeling of Ease Guides you unfailingly.
As you do the Inner work of forgiveness, you will feel more
vibrationally attuned to the Spirit. And you will call forth
witnesses to the state of mind you maintain. Everyone reflects the
state of mind which is maintained, and as you apply ACIM and flow
more consistently in the miracle you will feel the warmth and
affection that flows from our shared Purpose. You will smile more
frequently, and as the Purpose becomes your focus it may seem as if
you are wearing a smile almost always. You will also notice smiles
and laughter all around, and the love and affection you desire are
apparent when our Purpose is apparent.
As you feel good within and confidently extend how you feel, you
will notice how effortless it becomes to ask a woman out on a date.
And without expectations, the date will be a joyful holy encounter.
Let your confidence in the Holy Spirit grow, and watch how it warms
your heart. A warm glow is our natural state of mind.
Blessings of Love,
David
http://christ-jes.us
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I have this fear of attachment that hinders me from openly express
my love and affection to others. This is a serious hindrance to
dating and developing normal relationships toward others. I have
great difficulty joining with others. When I am with my friends and
family, my heart is cold and I don't feel any warm attachment or
feeling toward them. I don't have any joy when I am with people and
prefer to be left alone. The pursuit of awakening and reading the
ACIM and other spiritual books are my only enjoyments. Other than
that I have no other interests. I am deeply troubled by it. I wish
to have a stable relationship with a woman, but have very little
inclination to ask woman out for a date. I know this is not what the
Holy Spirit has intended for me, but I don't know what is my source
of error. Please comment on my state and please help me to have a
warm heart with a lot of love and affection.
Sincerely
---------------------------------------------------------------------
Beloved One,
Thanks for writing and opening up about what is troubling you. The
fear of attachment of which you speak is really a fear of Intimacy.
This fear is not about sexual intimacy, but it is the fear of
revealing your Innermost Self, believing that rejection or
attachment may result. Love and affection are held back because of
the belief in expectations attached to them. Love must be freely
given to be Love, and it is the same with affection. If there are
strings attached to love and affection, there are also unfulfilled
expectations. You have the opportunity to open up and feel how good
extending love feels. As you practice extending love and cultivate
expressing affection as the Holy Spirit Guides, it will seem more
and more natural. You will be Guided to opportunities for this, and
as you allow the Holy Spirit to shine through you it will feel more
and more natural. The old inhibitions are washed away in our shared
Purpose. The limits that were once placed on the mind begin to
loosen and dissolve. The motive shifts from getting to giving
without expectations. And a feeling of Ease Guides you unfailingly.
As you do the Inner work of forgiveness, you will feel more
vibrationally attuned to the Spirit. And you will call forth
witnesses to the state of mind you maintain. Everyone reflects the
state of mind which is maintained, and as you apply ACIM and flow
more consistently in the miracle you will feel the warmth and
affection that flows from our shared Purpose. You will smile more
frequently, and as the Purpose becomes your focus it may seem as if
you are wearing a smile almost always. You will also notice smiles
and laughter all around, and the love and affection you desire are
apparent when our Purpose is apparent.
As you feel good within and confidently extend how you feel, you
will notice how effortless it becomes to ask a woman out on a date.
And without expectations, the date will be a joyful holy encounter.
Let your confidence in the Holy Spirit grow, and watch how it warms
your heart. A warm glow is our natural state of mind.
Blessings of Love,
David
http://christ-jes.us
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